National Stay At Home
Because You’re Well Day
Today’s holiday is a great reminder to stop,
and take care of you today.
The hustle and bustle of the holiday season can take its toll. I know this for certain. Every year I was a living, breathing example of holiday burnout.
I’d say “yes” to every invite. Or, not stop the doing until everything on my list was done. I kept up with the parties and expectations around the season which left me feeling tired and drained. At some point, I stopped enjoying myself because I was tired and stressed. There were even some years that I missed out on Christmas or New Year’s celebrations altogether. I was so run down that I’d finish the season sick.
Finally, I realized that something had to change. But first, I had to learn how to listen to the parts of me that needed to slow down and rest. I learned to turn down invitations. I learned to be mindful of how many holiday “to-dos” I would commit to. It wasn’t easy. There was a lot of guilt and FOMO (fear of missing out). But, often with the support of others, I learned to take care of me first. You see, you can’t give to others if you have nothing left to give.
One of the tricks I taught myself was to manage my calendar in ways that put me first. You can learn this too! It’s really simple. And you can use these tips throughout the year to ensure that you get the downtime and rest you need.
Here’s are a few examples you can use right now.
At the end of each month, look to the month ahead and calendar all the events and commitments that are not flexible. Family events, holidays, other people’s events like weddings, and other celebrations, business commitments and deadlines. Now, look to the days immediately before and after these events or commitments. Make sure to schedule “you” time around those events.
I know my threshold. Get to know yours. I’ve learned the hard way that I can’t go all day and night, both days of the weekend without having downtime for me. Figure out how much downtime you need and schedule it before the weekend fills in with activities. Treat “you” time just like any other commitment and say “no” to other events and invitations.
This is also how I manage my work week. Get to know your threshold here too. I don’t plan more than one or two evenings out during the work week. This way, I show up to work each day feeling rested. I am fully present to my clients and give them my best. For me, nothing zaps my productivity and sense of accomplishment more than being overtired.
Figuring all this out and putting it into action took me many years. And, many times I relied on support from others who had blazed this trail ahead of me. Look for support from others around you who seem to do this well.
These acts of self-care are essential for your health and wellbeing. But, they don’t come naturally and many women feel selfish or guilty when caring for themselves first. Our culture sets a woman up to feel bad when she takes care of herself first.
If you struggle with this, it doesn’t have to be this way for you. Look around you for other women who are good models of self-care. Talk with her and get to learn how she navigates all the parts of her life while still making time for herself.
And, if you don’t have a person like this in your life, let’s talk.
Supporting women with tools, tips, and strategies for guilt-free self-care is a huge part of what I do. In fact, its’ the foundation from which together, we create a vibrant, healthy lifestyle for you.
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Yours in good health,
Sharon A. See
Certified Holistic Health & Nutrition Coach