National Stay At Home
Because You’re Well Day
This holiday is a great reminder to stop,
and take care of you.
And this year, this delightfully self-indulgent holiday falls on a Friday giving you a well deserved 3-day weekend!
Take advantage of this before the hustle and bustle of the holiday season can take its toll. Wish it didn’t take me so many years to understand the importance of taking care of me first. I used to be a living, breathing example of holiday burnout.
I’d say “yes” to every invite. I didn’t stop doing until everything on my list was done. I kept up with the parties and expectations around the season which left me feeling tired and drained. At some point, I stopped enjoying myself because I was tired and stressed. There were even some years that I missed out on a Christmas or New Year’s celebration because I let myself get too run down and would end the season sick.
Finally, I realized that something had to change. But first, I had to learn how to listen to the parts of me that needed to slow down and rest.
Eventually, I learned to turn down invitations and to be mindful of how many holiday “to-dos” I would commit to. It wasn’t easy. There was a lot of guilt and FOMO (fear of missing out). But, with the support of others, I learned to take care of me first. You see, you can’t give to others if you have nothing left to give.
One of the tricks I learned was to manage my calendar in ways that put me first. You can learn this too! It’s really simple. And you can use these tips throughout the year to ensure that you get the downtime and rest you need.
Here’s are a few examples you can use right now.
At the end of each month (like right now!), look to the month ahead and calendar all the events and commitments that are not flexible. Family events, holidays, other people’s events like weddings, and other celebrations, business commitments and deadlines. Now, look to the days immediately before and after these events or commitments. Make sure to schedule “you” time on those days around events.
I know my threshold. Get to know yours. I’ve learned the hard way that I can’t go all day and night, both days a weekend without having downtime for me. Figure out how much downtime you need and schedule it before the weekend fills in with activities. Treat “you” time just like any other commitment and say “no” to other events and invitations.
This is also how I manage my work week. Get to know your threshold here too. I don’t plan more than one or two evenings out during the work week. This way, I show up to work each day feeling rested. I am fully present to my clients and give them my best. For me, nothing zaps my productivity and sense of accomplishment more than being overtired. Not to mention how cranky it makes me.
Figuring all this out and putting it into action didn’t happen overnight. And, many times I relied on support from others who had blazed this trail ahead of me. Which leads to my next tip – be cautious not to confuse productive support with complaining and commiserating with others who are also stressed and overwhelmed. They aren’t going to show you how to do it differently and you’ll only stay stuck in the pattern right along with them.
Look for support from other women around you are who are good models of self-care. Talk with them and get to learn how they navigate all the parts of her life while still making time for themselves.
These acts of self-care are essential for your health and well-being. But, they don’t come naturally and many women feel selfish or guilty when caring for themselves first. Our culture sets a woman up to feel bad when she takes care of herself first.
If you don’t have women like this in your life, let’s talk.
Supporting women with tools, tips, and strategies for guilt-free self-care is a huge part of what I do. In fact, its’ the foundation from which together, we create a vibrant, healthy lifestyle for you.
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Yours in good health,
Sharon A. See
Certified Holistic Health & Nutrition Coach